Are you comfortable asking for reviews from your patrons? Is your boss indifferent about whether you are requesting reviews from your patrons?
Below are multiple approaches to asking for reviews in a way that feels natural rather than awkward or desperate. Each approach is rooted in well-tested techniques of persuasion, reciprocity, and genuine human connection. Where applicable, I’ve included references to proven strategies and studies. Enjoy!
Instead of feeling like you’re begging, think of it like this: you just did your best to make someone’s night awesome, and if they really enjoyed it, maybe they’ll be happy to help you out. A quick line works best, something like:
“It was so great serving you. If you had a good time, I’d love it if you mentioned it in a review. It really makes a difference for me and the restaurant.”
There’s this idea called the “peak-end rule” (Daniel Kahneman studied it) which basically says people remember the highlight of an experience and how it ended. If you ask for a review right after they’ve had a “wow” moment—maybe you surprised them with a small dessert or you nailed that perfect drink recommendation—they’re more likely to say yes.
“I’m so glad you loved the dessert. If you’re comfortable sharing your experience, a quick review would mean a lot to me.”
We all like to help people—especially if it’s quick and easy. You can highlight that by saying something like:
“If you’ve got a minute to leave a review, it really helps other people find great spots—and helps me, too!”
Sometimes, a simple card or slip of paper with a QR code can do the trick. Hand it to them along with the check, and say:
“Thanks so much for coming in. If you want to share your experience later, just scan this code—no pressure!”
You can also lean into curiosity:
“If there’s anything we could’ve done better, I’d love to know so we can improve. And if we got it right, we’d be thrilled if you left a quick review!”
If you’ve had fun rapport with the table:
“If you had an awesome time, shout it out in a review. If not… let’s pretend this never happened,” wink.
Finally, the biggest tip is to change your mindset. You’re not saying, “Please tell my boss I’m good.” You’re saying, “If you genuinely enjoyed yourself, I’d love if you spread the word.” When you focus on how your service made their experience better, it feels more natural to ask them to share that.
Practice a line or two that feels natural to you. Trust that customers who really enjoyed your service are usually happy to leave a nice word. You’ll be surprised how many people respond positively, especially if you’re not putting pressure on them or making it weird. Good luck, and here’s hoping the reviews roll in and help you score that promotion!